As we love being with our children and being there for our spouses. One thing is for sure, Stay-at-Home Moms can fake smiles. Back in the “Leave to Beaver” days there were so many Moms/Wives on Valium or who were drinking because of the stress and loss of identity.
So why would stay at home moms have so much stress? Isn’t going to work and juggling it all more stressful? The answer is that stay at home moms are more stressful the work out of the home moms for one reason alone, they do not get the “adult” interaction like working moms.
When was the last time you spoke to an adult outside of your spouse? When was the last time you got to get away from your home for 8 hours? Stay at home moms work 24/7. Cleaning over and over again, constantly at beck and call for everyone, managing everything without a break. With this a mom can lose their identity.
You are no longer a woman. You are a mom and a wife, chef, maid, plumber, mechanic, shopper, handy woman, laundry mat, taxi, tax preparer, organizer, coach, seamstress, psychologist, Nurse, spiritual guide, etc.
Anxiety and Panic attacks are one of the major signs of doing too much. Most stay at home moms cannot turn off their brains even when they are sleeping for that 5 hours a night. Imagine adding a home business to this mix and now you are completely overwhelmed.
So how can I help guide you to relieve some of this stress? Here are some pointers:
1) Delegate housework. Who cares if it is done the way you want it to be done. As long as someone is helping that is all that matters.
2) PLAN MEALS! Shop on Saturdays and plan out your meals for the entire week. Make sure to have your grocery list handy.
3) Prepare all snacks, cut up fruit and veggis. Cut up things you use all week like onions, peppers, carrots etc. Make food easy access. You can also cook ground hamburger ahead of time and chicken to use during the week.
4) Every morning while the kids are getting ready for school I pack lunches and clean the two main rooms, living room and kitchen. This helps to have two less rooms to do during the day.
5) Do at least to loads of laundry a day, the earlier the better.
6) Stick to a schedule with your kids. This will bring some order to the house. When they get home from school they must do their homework and chores before anything else.
7) Take an hour a day to relax and think of nothing. Or go out to lunch, read a book.
8) Have a date night with your spouse.
9) Have a date night with your friends. If you do not have any friends they go by yourself.
10) Stay connected to other Moms online. Search for forums or websites that have other Stay at home moms.
Lastly, if your identity crisis and anxiety has gotten the best of you please seek help through a psychologist. Getting help is the best thing you can do for yourself and those around you. Anti-depressants can be a God sent!
Rebecca Lomis-Stephan
Stay at Home Mom of 3
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